Guest Author Baeth Davis: 3 Tips To Conquer Your Fear and Put Your Unique Message Out in the World
By , The Hand Analyst, Inc.
Do you ever dream of swimming in a bigger lake with bigger fish, but you fear there’s a BIG hungry cat just waiting for you to jump so he can swoop in and snack on you! Most likely, in your everyday life, you’re not in close vicinity to cats that want to eat you unless you work at the zoo or regularly go on safari.
In surveying my readers, I asked, “What is the SINGLE BIGGEST THING that is stopping you from putting your unique message out to the world?” Hundreds, yes, hundreds of you replied. Guess what the most popular answer was?
F-E-A-R.
I had no idea that ‘fear’ was so prevalent and paralyzing as to keep people from putting their unique message out in the world! Your ‘message’ is the expression of your Life Purpose in action. If you don’t express it, it’s lost with you. And here’s the kicker: you can’t figure it out BEFORE you go out in the world, you figure it out once you’re up ON THE STAGE, giving your talk. The discovery of our message happens through real life experience, not just thinking about it.
One reader actually wrote that her Life Purpose - which happens to be “Passionate Healing Artist in the Spotlight” - was ‘too vague’ for her to put her message out in the world! How is that for fear talking? Is she doing her healing work in front of large audiences? Shall we wager a bet? The only thing ‘vague’ here is the smokescreen created by her fear. I’ll bet she is NOT doing her healing work, doesn’t have a full practice, and that she’s not on the stage every week. If your life purpose is Passionate Healing Artist in the Spotlight - need I say more? Self-explanatory. The business plan is right there. Unless your eyes are filled with fear…
Okay, so let’s take a look at some tips to get you out of analysis paralysis and INTO action. Success is the result of implementation. You can have dream boards filling your entire house, but if you don’t do anything, nothing will happen.
Tip #1: Conquering Fear Starts With Your BRAIN (…or how to avoid Santa Claus land…)
One of the best ways I know of to conquer fear is to have a decent understanding of how your brain really works.
Imagine you live in cave times with a ‘cave brain.’ You wake up each day, to face the same repetitive routine. You don’t think innovative thoughts, you wait for instructions from the ‘oracle’ or ‘guru’ of the group who has more access to his/her right brain capabilities than you.
This need for external authority and external answers is still part of our brain wiring today. However, we now have a lot more access to our right brain. The right brain is the part of our brain that ‘hears God,’ sees angels, gets pictures or impressions, and breaks through old ideas into new territory. The right brain is not linear nor interested in logic. It responds to art, music and love. It wants to be in the here and now.
Today, you have a choice. You can do the difficult, intense, disciplined work of integrating your thinking (logical and imaginative), really thinking through your problems and your goals and working toward solutions (it’s ALL IN YOU!) or you can hope that someone outside of you has the answer.
You’ll know you’re in the power give-away mode of your brain if you think someone or something will ’solve’ your problems. Products, books, psychotherapy, coaching - all of these things are wonderful IF you know that you are simply collecting information, data and experiences to help YOU solve the riddle of your fear. Nothing outside of you can solve your fear. Only you. And your brain has everything it needs to bring you the answer.
The first step to conquering fear is realizing YOU are the ONLY authority in your life. As soon as you go ‘external’ with your need for reassurance, you’re in Santa Claus land - as in, fantasy land. All the answers you need are within you. Really.
Tip #2: Conquering Fear Means FEELING The Fear
While at David Neagle’s “Experience The Reality of Success (ERS)” event last July, I faced down a level of fear I didn’t know existed in me. David is the kind of teacher who sets things up in a way that you WANT to have the breakthrough experience he is offering - even if it’s uncomfortable. What astounded me was that some people flew thousands of miles, spent thousands of dollars and still refused to take the one simple action that would forever change their relationship to their lives and their bank accounts - and I do mean FOREVER! As in permanent, long-lasting, mind- expanding, soul-blossoming change!
But these few folks said, “No way.” They quit early, went to bed, or went home. Personally, I have wayyyy too much pride to quit - especially in breaking through my fear. As a client said today, “Quitters never win and winners never quit.”
The one place I know I can’t quit is when I’m afraid. The cost is way, way, way TOO HIGH. This life is not a dress rehearsal. THIS IS IT! The KEY is this: to conquer your FEAR, you MUST FEEL the fear. At David’s event, each person has their own unique experience, their own unique breakthrough actions to take to fulfill the process he initiates. My unique process and the actions I needed to take surprised and baffled me and my knees were knocking most of the time. That was EXCITING because I KNEW that feeling the fear fully brought my goals closer to me, rather than pushing them further away. The folks sitting at my table finally realized when I dissolved into sobbing tears for the umpteenth time that I was just RELEASING emotion.
Feeling your feelings won’t get you eaten by that cat, but not feeling them might. Are you willing to look silly, feel embarrassed, lose control, dissolve into tears, throw a tantrum to breakthrough your fear? If not, you’re more in allegiance to the fear than your freedom.
Tip #3: Conquering Fear Means STOP LISTENING TO Fear Mongers
Okay, this is the last tip for today and a quick one. Why on Earth would you listen to people that fill you with fear? I’ll tell you why (you knew I would!). Because it’s ’safer’ to your ‘cave brain’ to stay safe in the tiny fishbowl than to jump over the cat. Filling yourself with fear gives you all the ammunition and excuses you need to do nothing. Because if you DO something, you will FEEL the fear - and it may make your knees knock and your teeth rattle. Doing something also means giving up your dependence on an outer authority to tell you what to do. Only YOU know what is right for you. Only YOU.
But what are your choices? Feel afraid and do nothing or feel afraid and have the world applauding your message?
Your EnergyRICH® Call To Action
I so believe in what is going to be taking place at Baeth Davis’ live
event in Las Vegas, The Life Purpose Summit, that I’m going to pay you to be there! That’s right.
I will be speaking during the add on day (June 7th) So when you register for the Life Purpose Summit AND include the add-on day ($297) you will receive a check directly from EnergyRICH® for $297 - to gift you the add-on day!
Now, I am sure you can understand we can’t do this for everyone
so this is ONLY for the first 20 who register for the Live Life
Purpose Summit AND the Add-On Day taking place in Las Vegas June
04-07, 2009.
(Your $297 check will be given to you at the live event - at the
end of the Add-On Day so literally leave with money in your pocket.)
So are you ready to swim with the BIG fish? It would be an honor to meet you in person! Be sure to reserve your spot here: http://handanalyst.com/heathersummit